My Red Flags List
A one-page template to fill out and share with a trusted family member or friend. You write out your own behavioral tells. They know what to look for and exactly how to bring it up without starting a fight.
My Red Flags List (PDF)
1 page · Print or fill by hand · Free
No email required. Download, print, fill it out, share it with one or two people you trust.
What's on the sheet
Five sections. Takes most people about twenty minutes to fill out. Print it and share it, or hand someone a photo of the completed page.
Your behavioral cues. Specific, observable things that show up on the outside when you are heading toward a hard period.
How to bring it up. The exact two-sentence check-in you want them to use, written out word for word.
What not to say. The phrases and approaches that close you down, so the person you share it with knows what to avoid.
What you want to happen next, and one thing you want them to know. Gives them a clear next step instead of leaving them to improvise.
For the full article on how to have this conversation with your family and why it works, see: A Script for Telling Your Family What to Watch For.